Sometimes get messages from followers saying that posting about “getting ready” makes them feel bad because they are tired, they are moms and they can’t just be a “perfect mom” like I am. That makes me really sad.
I have 4 kids. I am tired, too. I get grumpy. I don’t sleep some nights. We are going through family struggles currently just like everyone else. The difference? I choose to not wallow in my exhaustion and frustrations, all the time. I am a natural pessimist and I just found out I am an Enneagram 4 which means on bad days I have massive mood swings, I am self absorbed (because I think life is crashing down on me specifically) and depression sets in easily. But I am extremely self aware. I recognize negative emotions and I do believe that we have to address them and acknowledge that they are there for a reason. But, I choose to push forward with intention, energy and drive - even when I don’t want to. And I allow myself to have rest days too! Both are completely important!
I am in the same season you are as a tired mom. But here are some habits that 100% help energize my day…
Make my bed (hubby does this most of the time now though)
Drink my coffee
Read something (and not necessarily social media)
Listen to something like a podcast, audio book or worship music
Get myself ready
Get up and do something right when I wake up (like the gym)
And these are the things that I try to avoid first thing in the morning. These things drain me first thing in the morning and keep me in a slump…
Unconsciously scrolling on social media - when I do this too long, I get stuck in the scroll and really enjoy chilling and scrolling..then I don’t get out of bed…for a while.
Not getting myself ready
Laying on the couch
Not putting a bra on first thing in the morning
Making a phone call… ( I tend to keep these later in the day once my morning routines are complete).
Does this mean that I do all of the good habits every single day? Not at all. But I know that most of the time, the healthy habits keep me in a healthier mental space. I strive to implement a few good habits regularly so that I can set myself up for success…or at least not for total failure. And it is not always based of feelings. Because most of the time, I don’t really feel like starting my day off with these habits. Who wouldn’t want to lay in bed with a hot cup of coffee and watch some Greys Anatomy?
But it isn’t effective.
Push yourself, even when you don’t want to. I love using Mel Robbins 5 second rule. When you think about getting up before your alarm (and you are already awake) - don’t give your mind the option to talk yourself out of it. You are awake already - just countdown 5-4-3-2-1 and then get up. When you think about going to the gym just do it - 5-4-3-2-1 go!
What healthy habits are you implementing to start your day off better?