Morning Habits to Energize My Day and Bad Morning Habits That Drain Me

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Sometimes get messages from followers saying that posting about “getting ready” makes them feel bad because they are tired, they are moms and they can’t just be a “perfect mom” like I am. That makes me really sad.

I have 4 kids. I am tired, too. I get grumpy. I don’t sleep some nights. We are going through family struggles currently just like everyone else. The difference? I choose to not wallow in my exhaustion and frustrations, all the time. I am a natural pessimist and I just found out I am an Enneagram 4 which means on bad days I have massive mood swings, I am self absorbed (because I think life is crashing down on me specifically) and depression sets in easily. But I am extremely self aware. I recognize negative emotions and I do believe that we have to address them and acknowledge that they are there for a reason. But, I choose to push forward with intention, energy and drive - even when I don’t want to. And I allow myself to have rest days too! Both are completely important!

I am in the same season you are as a tired mom. But here are some habits that 100% help energize my day…

  1. Make my bed (hubby does this most of the time now though)

  2. Drink my coffee

  3. Read something (and not necessarily social media)

  4. Listen to something like a podcast, audio book or worship music

  5. Get myself ready

  6. Get up and do something right when I wake up (like the gym)

And these are the things that I try to avoid first thing in the morning. These things drain me first thing in the morning and keep me in a slump…

  1. Unconsciously scrolling on social media - when I do this too long, I get stuck in the scroll and really enjoy chilling and scrolling..then I don’t get out of bed…for a while.

  2. Watching TV

  3. Not getting myself ready

  4. Laying on the couch

  5. Not putting a bra on first thing in the morning

  6. Making a phone call… ( I tend to keep these later in the day once my morning routines are complete).

Does this mean that I do all of the good habits every single day? Not at all. But I know that most of the time, the healthy habits keep me in a healthier mental space. I strive to implement a few good habits regularly so that I can set myself up for success…or at least not for total failure. And it is not always based of feelings. Because most of the time, I don’t really feel like starting my day off with these habits. Who wouldn’t want to lay in bed with a hot cup of coffee and watch some Greys Anatomy?

But it isn’t effective.

Push yourself, even when you don’t want to. I love using Mel Robbins 5 second rule. When you think about getting up before your alarm (and you are already awake) - don’t give your mind the option to talk yourself out of it. You are awake already - just countdown 5-4-3-2-1 and then get up. When you think about going to the gym just do it - 5-4-3-2-1 go!

What healthy habits are you implementing to start your day off better?