There is this article that is going around right now that is essentially saying, moms don’t need more self care. That self-care will not fix burnout.
That statement couldn’t be further from the truth.
The problem is the perception and definition of self-care has been distorted into consumerism and escapism. Not actually taking care of yourself to achieve long term results.
When we think self care, we think of bath bombs, chocolate, netflix and wine after the kids go to bed and luxurious face masks. And while I am down to do all of those thing occasionally and even regularly - that isn’t true self care.
That is reactive ‘self care’. That is escapism. And it will never produce long-term effects. How silly to even think that a bath bomb would actually chance the problems we face as mothers?
Do you want to know what will help you overcome burnout and step into a more abundant motherhood?
Real, true, proactive ‘self care’.
The definition of self-care is this…
The practice of taking action to preserve or improve one's own health.
The practice of taking an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness, in particular, during periods of stress.
Any proactive action that you take to preserve your own health is considered self care, my friends. So stop letting bath bombs define self care. Because it is so much more than that. And it is SO vital - especially for moms!
My definition of self care is…
Self care is proactively making choices and creating habits to ensure that you are able to not only sustain your lifestyle or the lifestyle you want but an effective tool to push yourself into thriving, not just surviving. -Jaime McLaughlin
So what does real, true and proactive self care look like?
I have outlined some examples below…
boundaries with people and your with your schedule
an organized schedule
good communication with your family
feeding yourself well
moving your body
a healthy mindset
getting yourself ready and out of the house regularly (no more isolation)
reading your bible
going out with friends
having quiet time
getting your finances in order
decluttering your house
focusing on solutions to your problems rather than your actual problems
You see - all of the items above fall under the category of self care! Anything that is going to push you into a healthier space and remove stress, chaos and anxiety is technically self care because it is relieving you of all of those negative emotions, feelings and experiences that you were having before. It is putting strategies in place to protect you, long-term.
Stress is inevitable in this lifetime. There is a certain level of chaos that naturally comes with having a family. But we don’t have to succumb to the burnt out, unorganized motherhood that is so widely and unconsciously accepted.
If you are ready to step into a less overwhelmed motherhood, I created tools just for you.