The Power of Your Mind

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I was listening to this podcast the other day while I was driving. (Podcast post coming soon) And the guy was talking about the power of thought. He said - our brains are ancient (like caveman status). They are wired to survive, not thrive. Our brains naturally function in a fear based manner trying to keep us safe and alive. And that it takes an intentional “rewiring” or retraining of our brain to get out of survival mode and start to function in a more positive + thriving way.

Can anyone relate?

I am honestly a natural pessimist. It’s something I don’t like and work hard at changing every day. But what this guy was saying, not only helped me understand WHY I functioned that way but helped remove the guilt a little.

I come from a place of real struggle. I’ve been on my own since I was 18, I was a mom at 19, a single mom shortly after and have gone through many struggles since then.

Getting myself out of survival mode and into thrive mode was something I wasn’t sure was possible. I would see people around me doing great things and I would slip into victim mode. My thoughts would spiral me down into a discouraged place.

It wasn’t until a few really good books, some podcasts and some great mentors that I realized I wasn’t doing great things because my thoughts were so negative and my mindset wasn’t right.

Your mindset controls so much. I love this analogy...

Imagine that somebody puts a gun to your head and tells you that you have to run 26.2 miles in under five hours, or else he’ll kill you and your entire family.

That would suck.

Now imagine that you bought nice shoes and running gear, trained religiously for months, and completed your first marathon with all of your closest family and friends cheering you on at the finish line.

That could potentially be one of the proudest moments of your life.

Exact same 26.2 miles. Exact same person running them. Exact same pain coursing through your exact same legs. But when you chose it freely and prepared for it, it was a glorious and important milestone in your life. When it was forced upon you against your will, it was one of the most terrifying and painful experiences of your life.

Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.
— Mark Manson

Often times we feel like victims of our lives and our circumstances. But when we start to partake in life, in our schedules, in our choices, in our decisions and really grab life by the reins - life starts to shift and change. 

Mama, I want you to know that you can do amazing things. But it starts In your head.

You CAN feel good and look good as a mom. You CAN have twenty kids and still have your crap together. You CAN start that business you’ve been thinking about. You CAN write that book, or start that blog or whatever else your heart desires!

You’ve gotta change your mindset and your thoughts!

A phrase that helps me is “I don’t HAVE to, I am ABLE to.”

  • I don’t HAVE to go grocery shopping, I am ABLE to.
  • I don’t HAVE to pick my kids up from school, I am ABLE to.
  • I don’t HAVE to get ready, I am ABLE to.
  • I don’t HAVE to work, I am ABLE to.

You see the difference? That one phrase shifts your mind into a place of gratitude.

Self care isn’t just on the outside. You have to care for your mind and your soul, too mama.

Spend some time today thinking about how you can shift your thoughts to a more positive place and start affirming those sentences in your head.

Be positive. Take care of yourself + fill yourself back up mama!

Lots of love for you ladies!! 

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