Today is Halloween. And, I was scrolling through Facebook and saw this viral post of this teenager dressed up as a “Mom” for Halloween.
First off, I don’t want to exploit this girl, or make her feel bad. It is not her fault that this is how she views Moms or “Tired Moms”. But it is our fault. Society continues to paint the picture of moms like this because this is how we continually show up. Is this really how we want to be viewed?
Women in current times are DEMANDING respect, demanding equal rights, demanding that they are treated fairly just as men would bet etc etc etc. But yet this is how we show up? This is how society views us?
I think MOMS are forgetting that they are a freaking integral part of society. We are raising the next generation of humans and if THIS is how we show up…we have a problem.
Moms - Expect more of yourselves, comprehend that you are a human outside of your kids and your husband and that you have needs and wants too. And you do not need to apologize for that! You don’t need permission to take pride in yourself.
There are seasons in life where this might be your reality. Maybe you have a lot of kids, maybe you aren’t sleeping, maybe you are fostering babies. And if this is a SEASON, that is ok. But it is not ok to remain this way throughout your full walk of motherhood. Make it temporary!
Remove the excuses, get your butt out of bed and get yourself ready for the day regardless of what you are doing that day. Don’t do it because someone else might see you that day - do it for YOU! Who cares if you are a stay at home mom. Show up as the CEO of your home, get yourself ready for the day so you have energy and so you feel good.
I don’t want to offend you, and I don’t want to make you feel bad. But I do want you to realize that we could wallow in excuses all day long. But we need to stop.
You don’t have time? Make time.
You don’t have money? Make some extra money or cut down on something else.
You don’t know how? I can teach you. Or use your google search bar, friends.
We are living in a day and age where we have limitless knowledge and information all around us. There are so many incredible people sharing content on how to do this whole mom thing that it feels almost unacceptable to not have our crap together for the most part.
Again, we all have seasons of crap. Hard seasons of parenting, hard seasons of mom bodies and peeing ourselves because we’ve birthed 4 children, and babies breaking arms and kids not sleeping. But don’t stay in that season. Find a way out.
I don’t want to feel like crap every day. And I feel like crap when I don’t take care of my body and when I don’t get myself ready. I know I am not alone.
I don’t want people to perceive me as a cliche, hot mess of a mother. I want people to know that I take my job as a mother seriously. Serious enough to show up for it - day in and day out with intention, and focus.
Take pride in yourself as a woman, as a mom and as a human. Set an example of what that looks like for your kids. Show up for your marriage and your spouse. Show up for your job - whatever that looks like.
You don’t need to be camera ready or picture perfect. But you should feel good and you should put a bra on.
Lots of love to you fellow moms. I know this job is freaking hard. I feel it every single day. But I also make conscious choices every single day to better my life, my kids lives and change what I don’t like. Its up to you.