Sometimes get messages from followers saying that posting about “getting ready” makes them feel bad because they are tired, they are moms and they can’t just be a “perfect mom” like I am. That makes me really sad.
I have 4 kids. I am tired, too. I get grumpy. I don’t sleep some nights. We are going through family struggles currently just like everyone else. The difference? I choose to not wallow in my exhaustion and frustrations, all the time. I am a natural pessimist and
Self care for new moms is something that is really hard to navigate through, especially currently when “Self Care” is so. dang. trendy.
So where do you start? What does “Self Care for a New Mom” really look like when you are getting zero sleep, you are trying to get to know a new human, you are still quite literally healing from a big change to your physical body and trying to deal with all the emotions and responsibility of it all?
I teach self care. My job is to help women navigate burnout, how to move away from survival mode and move into a space of thriving. But, what kind of teacher would I be if I didn’t listen to my own advice?
Prioritizing self care can be hard. Especially when raising a family. It is even harder when your partner doesn’t understand your needs. Sometimes, women feel like they shouldn’t have needs/wants - simply because they stay home. I’ve heard many women talk about the guilt attached with spending money when they don’t actually make money as a stay at home mom.
I LOVE the week between Christmas and New Years. While everyone is wandering around in their messes of too many toys, too much clutter, not knowing where anything is, exhausted from holidays and wondering how Christmas came and left so fast - I am busy mentally preparing for my new year. Which by the way has helped me NOT be in a funk before and after christmas.
It is no surprise that Freshly Picked Bags are heaven. Their moccs are the best, so I knew when I needed to find a good bag, I could probably trust them with that too. All my babies all wear freshly picked moccs and how that they came out with the slip ons, they wear those too. (Olivia is wearing the platinum ones in the pictures below). I own 4 bags and literally use all 4 of them. Check them out below!
When you look at “successful business people” outside of the home, typically you will see a common thread among them. They eat healthy, they wake up early, they work out, they make their beds, they are organized, they plan ahead etc. Among those things, they are driven, goal oriented and focused. They have implemented habits that help sustain their success.
We all know that time is limited as a Mama. Especially around the holidays.
One of the things I teach in my courses is how to do your makeup quickly and efficiently. The goal here is that you aren’t spending hours on end shuffling through products and watching lengthy tutorials on looks you will never do. I give you a detailed and short list of products that actually work and then step by step instructions on how to apply them.
Women in current times are DEMANDING respect, demanding equal rights, demanding that they are treated fairly just as men would bet etc etc etc. But yet this is how we show up? This is how society views us?
I think MOMS are forgetting that they are a freaking integral part of society. We are raising the next generation of humans and if THIS is how we show up…we have a problem.
Dressing is no easy feat as a mama. We’ve got so much on our plate, lots to think about, limited funds (thanks diapers, broken arms and preschool dues), and then there is the mom bod. We find ourselves post baby, with left over nursing boobs, wider hips and just some funky things to overcome.
But, as always where there is a will there is a way. I will always maintain the position that moms don’t have to look like crap. We can put a little effort in and with the right tools, we can look really good while doing this whole motherhood thing.
I am a true minimalist at heart. Even with 4 kids. I don’t like toys everywhere. I don’t deal with chaos very well and I like to walk into a space and feel peace rather than stress. Which is sometimes a challenge with a big family.
I used to get lash extensions, and I LOVE them. I totally recommend them but honestly I don’t have the time anymore to maintain them. I wish I could, but right now our season of life is just so full. So I started looking into how I could get as similar effect at home, without putting on false lashes every single day..
Goodness friends. The past coupled days have been a challenge, to say the least.
Our sweet boy fell on Sunday night. He was in his room playing, fell off of a chair and broke his arm. While I literally cannot get into specific details because I am still a mess about it, all I know is that it was bad. It is nothing I ever want to experience again or have my babies experience.
My Brush Collection with Sigma Beauty is LIVE. We launched the first set on September 27th and they sold out in just over 24 hours. Now, Sigma has RESTOCKED for a limited time and they are available until they sell out!
#MomLife - It comes with lots of changes. Changes to our minds, our bodies and our relationships. We sleep less, we eat worse, we have to buy bigger clothes that are “breastfeeding friendly”...truth be told - it’s not the most flattering time of our lives. But it doesn’t mean that we have to lose ourselves either. We don’t have to feel crappy and look crappy all while our kids walk around looking like models.
I knew what I was "consuming" had an impact on my mental state, but not totally my identity. I think we, as a society, are currently functioning in such a passive and subconscious state when we do things, especially when we are on social media. This is just society today. We just accept the social norms with out question or argument.
I was listening to this podcast the other day while I was driving. And the guy was talking about the power of thought. He said - our brains are ancient (like caveman status). They are wired to survive, not thrive. Our brains naturally function in a fear based manner trying to keep us safe and alive. And that it takes an intentional “rewiring” or retraining of our brain to get out of survival mode and start to function in a more positive + thriving way.
A few years ago, my husband and I bought our first house. We were so ecstatic. We watched way too much Chip and Jo and thought we had it all worked out. And while we were so thankful for the opportunity to own our own home and fix it up exactly how we wanted it - we soon realized that it was a money and time pit. And it wasn't what either of us wanted, at least not right now. Not in the season of raising babies, soccer games, work meetings, first steps, first words, family vacations and more.
I’m Calling it friends. Selfless motherhood is bullcrap.
We’ve all seen those memes reminding us that our time with our kids is limited, we only have x amount of summers, x amount of christmases, x amount of first days and last days of school. And I get it. It is super easy to get caught up in the “I’m never going to sleep again” lie. (I may or may not have uttered that last week before I stopped nursing my almost 12 month old). But somehow this” encouragement to savor the moments” has turned into moms completely losing themselves in their kids and abandoning their own body, mind and sanity.
My girl, Angela, from Minty Beauty Co sent over a Maskcara Beauty palette and brushes for me to try. I was SO excited because this is all the rave right now and I needed to see what it was all about and compare it to "my way" of things.
I am so excited to announce the launch of my E-Book, The Ultimate Beauty Guide. A comprehensive guide to modern day makeup, how to choose your products and the tools to go with them. Available February 1st, 2018! The countdown is ON!
Have you ever walked into Sephora or Ulta and walked straight back out empty handed because you simply don't know what to buy? Or you head to the department store and the lady at the beauty counter matched your skin "perfect" in store and then you go outside only to find you have an orange face? Well, you are not alone. It's time to abandon overwhelm once and for all and walk confidently into stores to create your perfect makeup bag.
We are "on the go" a lot. We did have a nice slow season before we had Olivia, but since her birth we have started school, started soccer for 2 kids, I started a new job...(announcement coming soon), and everything else started up...moms group, small group etc.
I LOVE this season of life. It is so full. But one thing I started to notice, is we were having to eat more "convenient" meals as we are limited on time. Sometimes I can meal prep, which helps us a ton! But sometimes, I just don't want to or nothing sounds good.
One thing that is super important to me is feeding my kids healthy, fresh and nutritious options daily. I think that in order for our bodies to fight off all the germs that kids naturally just share and spread around, we have to make sure we are feeding our kiddos (and us) WHOLE foods consistently. This doesn't mean we don't eat sweets, carbs or treats. We definitely get our fill of yummy goodies. But I've always encouraged my kids, that in order to remove the guilt from treats, you need to fill the core of your diet with whole foods. So how do I stay on top of good nutrition for all 6 of us in our household?
I am a baby-wearer to the MAX. I studied cross cultural parenting in college which gave me a whole new outlook on baby wearing. Not only is it convenient but it has AMAZING benefits. Personally, I practice Attachment Parentingand something called "The Second Nine Months" , and it has honestly been incredible with all 4 babies. I have 4 very secure babies, who sleep great and are very confident. Confident enough to play on their own without hanging all over me. Which is why I can survive with 4 kids!
Motherhood is full of so many ups and downs. I honestly love motherhood more than anything in the world. I love every stage so far from newborn to my oldest who is 9. I feel honored to be able to wake up with them every day and lay them down each night. But there are so many aspects to motherhood that can leave a momma down at the end of the day.
Is anyone else ready for cooler weather and hot coffee? I find myself wondering if Phoenix is the place I want to raise my family. I crave changes in the weather, greener surroundings and some more mother nature. As a Phoenix Native who has traveled all around, I feel like there are so many beautiful places my family could be. How do you know you are raising your family in the right place? I feel like I was thrown into adulthood but I still don't know how to adult. I feel this stirring in my spirit to move...but where to?
I am a total book worm. I could spend hours reading book after book. Thankfully, my kids (most of them) have taken after me in that aspect. My oldest LOVES books so much. She usually reads chapter books in a day or two. But when she was younger, it was easier for me to get reading time in with her. She was interested AND I had more time to give just her. But ask the family grows, its harder to find time to spend with each child reading individually. Yes, the husband and I conquer and divide, but sometimes we want to all be together too.
I love hearing what questions you all want me to answer. This is a really popular question. "How do I prepare our kids for a new baby?" This is such an awesome question and one that many parents have when they are considering adding a new baby the bunch or when they get pregnant.